So you just got engaged! Congrats!
One of the best ways to become financially free is to not blow $10-$50K on an expensive wedding that within the spider web of the “wedding industrial complex” where you are paying $12 dollar per Heineken for you uncle or $120 dollars for a bouquet of flowers that normally run you $50 dollars delivered even on Valentines.
Buying an expensive primary residence (and not investing in cash flowing rentals) is another mistake many young couples make but I don’t want to start a controversy over this subject now. You can read about this here.
The best way to save money as you start a new journey is to just get eloped… This is how to do it!
HOW TO GET MARRIED IN HAWAII (Updated 12/9/2018)
Email [email protected] if there are any revisions needed.
GETTING A MARRIAGE LICENSE
A marriage license allows you to get married in any of the Hawaiian islands and you don’t need to be a U.S. citizen or a resident of Hawaii to obtain one, as well, because, under The Marriage Equality Act, any couple of any gender can obtain a license to marry in Hawaii. However, you must meet these requirements to apply:
- You can legally marry if both you and your spouse-to-be are at least 18 years old.
- If you are 16 or 17 years old, you must obtain written consent from both parents, legal guardian, or from the family court. Consent forms are given to you by a marriage license agent.
- If you are 15 years old, you must obtain written consent from both parents or legal guardian and the written approval of a judge of the family court. Consent forms are given to you by a marriage license agent.
- If you are 18 years old or younger, you must provide a certified copy of your birth certificate.
- If you are 19 years or older, you must provide a valid I.D. or driver’s license as proof of your age.
- If you have been previously married, you must have proof of your divorce decree or a death certificate of your previous spouse to present to the marriage license agent within 30 days of applying for a marriage license.
- Blood tests are not required. However, the blood relationship between you and your significant other cannot be closer than first cousins.
[Basically, they are just checking you not marrying your cousin]
Marriage License Additional Info
- Minimum Age to Marry: 15 [You should probably date around a bit]
- Legal Age to Marry: 18 years for both applicants.
- Marriage License Fee: $60.00 (plus $5.00 portal administrative cost).
- Waiting Period: None.
- License Validity: 30 Days.
- Blood Test: Not Required.
- Residency: Not Required.
- Witnesses: Not required.
- The prospective applicants must prepare an official application and file the application in person with the marriage license agent. Application forms are provided by the marriage license agent or may be downloaded.
- The prospective applicants must appear together in person before a marriage license agent to apply for a marriage license.
- The prospective applicants should be prepared to provide the necessary proof of age and present any required written consents and approvals. All of the necessary documents should be obtained prior to applying for a marriage license.
- The prospective applicants must prepare an official application and file the application in person with the marriage license agent. The application may be completed online. The application will not be accepted if sent by either postal mail or e-mail.
- Upon approval, a marriage license is issued at the time the application is made.
- The marriage license is good only in, but is valid throughout, the State of Hawaii.
You can fill out the Hawaii marriage license application in two ways.
You can use the Hawaii Electronic Marriage and Civil Union Registration System here: https://emrs.ehawaii.gov/emrs/public/home.html to complete the application and pay online. This is the fastest and easiest way to apply for your marriage license and it is the same application for Marriage or Civil Unions eliminating confusion. Also, this system accepts credit cards so you don’t have to bring cash to your marriage license appointment.
Fill out the paper version of the Hawaii Marriage License Application located here: https://emrs.ehawaii.gov/emrs/pdfs/Marriage_Application.pdf and bring them to your marriage license appointment.
[I did it online – it took 5 minutes once I confirmed the spelling of the in-laws’ names]
MARRIAGE LICENSE AGENT (Setting up an appointment)
Call a marriage license agent before you arrive on island to make an appointment. A marriage license appointment lasts about 30 minutes.
[This is to get the License (later you need to find an officiant to do mini ceremony – as you can see its definitely a fetch-quest that is impossible to do if you are drunk, 2AM in the morning). In lieu of getting a marriage license agent you can simply go to the Department of Health on weekdays. The other license agents are sort of private contractors (like private mobile notary) if you don’t want to take a day off work… this is what I did]
IMPORTANT NOTE: To facilitate the license issuing process, please apply for your license online at https://emrs.ehawaii.gov before visiting a license agent.
Bring to your licensing appointment:
- $70 cash (unless paid online with a credit card already)
- Completed paper application or printed receipt from your online application
- Drivers License, Military ID or Passport (Birth Certificate required if you are under 18)
- Both people that will be involved in the marriage or civil union must attend the marriage license appointment
Once you complete online you will get the following message:
Thank you for completing your marriage application
You have completed your application.
To obtain the marriage license, the prospective Applicant I and Applicant II must appear together in person before a license agent along with the necessary documents.
· Your application Locator ID: x x
This Locator ID (also found on your payment receipt as Authorization Code) is important. This number will be needed to access your temporary Certificate of Marriage. Please note that the temporary certificate is only available to those whose performer enters the ceremony information online. If your performer is online, your temporary certificate will be available after two business days. Check with your license agent for an online performer. Please provide the temporary certificate and the Locator ID (Authorization Code) to each agency that needs to determine that this marriage occurred in the State of Hawaii.
· Proof of age is required. A certified copy of a birth certificate must be presented for anyone 18 years of age or under. A valid I.D. or driver’s license may be presented for anyone 19 years of age or over.
· If previously married, proof of original divorce decree or death certificate needs to be presented to the marriage agent by the applicant if the divorce or death was final within 30 days of applying for a marriage license.
· The marriage license expires 30 days from and including the date of issuance, after which it automatically becomes null and void.
List of Marriage License Agents – Scroll down to bottom of page
CHOOSING YOUR MARRIAGE OFFICIANT [After you get your license]
- They must be licensed by the State of Hawaii to perform.
- If you choose from the list of licensed performers provided by the Department of Health, you can obtain a temporary online marriage certificate 3 days after your ceremony. This is useful if you need your marriage certificate early since most official certificates take up to 3 weeks to be received in the mail.
- [You probably know someone who is an officiant, buy them lunch or dinner or something]
- Click here for complete list of Marriage Officiants.
- IMPORTANT – Bring your Marriage License WITH YOU to your wedding!
- Your minister or officiant will complete it and file the license with the State of Hawaii.
And that’s it! Cause you saved so much money do something nice! Don’t be a complete cheapo.
Marriage Agent List
· Adolpho, Margie
· Allen, Stella
· Asbel, Nerine
· Belton, Amanda
· Brown, Judith
· CARSON, LAUREN
· Chang, Sheri
· Corpuz, Diosdado
· HASHIMOTO, RACHEL
· Koehne, Megan
· Kubota, Jamie
· Lavarias, Kelly
· Lobendahn, Marcilena
· Luning, Sherilynn
· Nacapuy, Roy
· Naone, Toni
· Okimoto, Cheryl
· Onaka, Alvin
· Patrick, Melina
· PAULSEN, APRIL
SCHOFIELD BARRACKS, Hawaii
· Pere, Sydney
· SHARMAN, THERESA
· Tipoti, Tiare
· Vomvoris, Melissa
· WHARTON, LAKISHA
SCHOFIELD BARRACKS, Hawaii
· Yamamoto, Keith
· Young, Suzanne
HONOLULU MAIN OFFICE (DOWNTOWN)
Judith Brown (808) 586-4544
Irene Takeda (808) 586-4544
MCCULLY / WAIKIKI / WAHIAWA
Sherilynn Luning (808) 586-4544 / (808) 523-1880
FOUR SEASONS RESORT AT KO OLINA (BY APPOINTMENT ONLY)
Nerine Asbel (808) 679-3271
Amanda Belton (808) 679-3270
Karen Block (808) 679-3272
SHERATON WAIKIKI (BY APPOINTMENT ONLY)
Yuliya Avelino (808) 931-8349
TURTLE BAY RESORT (BY APPOINTMENT ONLY)
Margie Adolpho (808) 293-6020
Sheri Chang (808) 293-6020
Diosdado Corpuz (808) 293-6020
Megan Koehne (808) 293-6020
Jamie Kubota (808) 293-6020
Roy Nacapuy (808) 293-6020
Melina Patrick (808) 293-6020
Sydney Pere (808) 293-6020
Ina Taea (808) 293-6020
Tiare Tipoti (808) 293-6020
Fusako Miyamoto (808) 455-1186
SCHOFIELD BARRACKS (BY APPOINTMENT ONLY)
April Paulsen (402) 821-7449
Lakisha Wharton (210) 722-7148
WEDDINGS OF HAWAII (BY APPOINTMENT ONLY)
Lauren Carson (808) 923-4876
Rachel Hashimoto (808) 923-4876
Theresa Sherman (808) 923-4876
HAWAII (BIG ISLAND)
Managing Director, Hawaii County – Hilo (By Appointment Only)
Wil Okabe (808) 961-8504
Governor’s Liaison Office – Hilo (By Appointment Only)
Joyce Nakagawa (808) 974-6262
Governor’s Liaison Office – Captain Cook (By Appointment Only)
Susan Kim (808) 323-4542
Abigail Au (808) 323-4542
Hawaii District Health Office (By Appointment Only)
Mary Farias (808) 974-6008 – Hilo
Tiffany Joaquin (808) 887-8114 – Waimea
Four Seasons Resort Hawaii at Hualalai (By Appointment Only)
Kimberly Kaluau (808) 325-8072
Monica Balanay (808) 325-8072
Mauna Kea Beach Resort (By Appointment Only)
LaRoma Tomosada (808) 882-5465
Lanette Yamamoto (808) 882-5709
Sheraton Kona Resort & Spa (By Appointment Only)
Kristi-Anne Udac (808) 930-4919
Kailua-Kona (South Kona and Kohala)
Andrea Bojorquez (808) 990-1929
Rose Delfin (808) 640-6179 – Hilo
Governor’s Liaison Office – Wailuku (By Appointment Only)
Leah Belmonte (808) 243-5798
Michelle Ankele-Yamashita (808) 243-5798
Grand Wailea (By Appointment Only)
April Noland (808) 891-3378
White Orchid Weddings (By Appointment Only)
Uilani Beltran (808) 446-8140
Steven Cook (808) 446-8140
Linda Albright (808) 875-8459 – Wailuku / Kihei / Wailea
Sherilynn Takushi (808) 276-6919 – Lahaina / Kahului
Cynthia Wolfe (808) 875-8459 – Wailuku / Kihei / Wailea
Molokai District Health Office
Tiffany Rapanot (808) 553-7870 – Kaunakakai
Linda Napoleon (808) 553-5552 – Kaunakakai
Four Seasons Resorts Lanai (Lanai City) (By Appointment Only)
Rosalie Abarca (808) 565-2424
Kanoe Kaiaokamalie (808) 565-2425
Governor’s Liaison Office – Lihue (By Appointment Only)
Carrice Gardner (808) 274-3100
Randall Machado II (808) 274-3100
Jill Kosen (808) 246-2779 – Lihue
Jamie Listman (808) 378-4290 – Hanalei
Ellen O’Connell (808) 742-7305 – Koloa / Poipu
Dayna Santos (808) 378-4290 – Hanalei
Walter (Kamika) Smith (808) 821-6882 – Wailua / Kapaa
Darlene Kapana (808) 821-6880 – Wailua / Kapaa
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